What will it take?

Greetings Nakidfiners & Observants,

    Okay let's dig into a delicate topic, I posted up a blog written by a person I don't follow but read on a friends Facebook wall over night & from there I put it in Nakidfine & 9 my fitness forum.   I found the read to be very harsh & direct however with some truth in it used to provoke some thoughts and possible personal evaluation.  I am now also aware of the this bloggers approach and methods which are extremely far from my fitness & higher spiritual obligations.  Only if I would have known I have always been sensitive to my members and their feelings &  I knew the topic would reach my fitness family like nothing I have ever posted before and I made a comment above the article "PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT!!!".   I wanted to present it so a person could use it to evaluate themselves honestly and not be one of the types mentioned in the article while presenting how they may have over come or how they are in the process of overcoming and achieving fitness success.  Even though my intentions had a planned purpose it quickly offended a few of my most committed members who could very easily be labeled in one of the many harsh points the blogger was making.   Just that quick my plan back fired, even though publicly it was announce that it killed one persons vibe for the morning that was enough for me to pull the plug on that approach.  I'm kinda working on my professionalism for 2015, but the sensitive areas are the main ones that need their asses kicked.  So the #1 question I wanted to pose this morning "WHAT DID IT TAKE TO GET YOU OFF YOUR ASS??!!??!?!!!" Let's start there while reading a FLEXIMONY from Dea Win founder of Pretty Girls Rock Dresses.  


    The Mental Aspect of Weight Loss:

I have dealt with weight since I was four years old preparing for my cousin's big wedding. As I gobbled my happy meal down happily my aunt smiled and said with a raspy whisper, "D, looks like you need to get on a diet so you can look pretty in your dress at Carla's wedding!" with those words so began my infatuation with food, dieting, and weight loss. I have tried everything under the sun to move weight. As a teenager I was an exercising bulimic, as a young woman I spent countless hours in the gym trying to mold my body into the ideal shape. Little did I know the importance of dieting when I was killing myself in the gym. I joined weight watchers and it helped me bring structure to my eating but I was addicted to carbs, soda, and the comfort of food. People don't understand how hard it is to deal with weight when you have food addictions. As I have gotten older I understand the importance of picking better food but I remember the anguish of trying to reach a goal and not have all of the building blocks to help me succeed. We must be careful of our critique of others dealing with weight and health related issues. Just because it's scientifically easy for you to lose weight don't make it easy for the next person battling the bulge.

 It is not right for anyone to attack a person or make them feel attacked if they are attempting to face an obesity obstacle or just battling the mental anguish being looked at in society as unattractive in comparison to thinner women and it is not a BLACK THING or a WHITE THING nor is it gender specific it is daily struggle  even when you start to achieve some of your goals. It will always be a battle and the insensitive types are stacking the odds against us! I am included as well shit I gain 20 pounds my damn self! and it got me feeling some kind of way!  There are so many questions I wanted to ask this morning, I wanted to speak with my friend to make sure she is truly okay, I want to continue what Dea and I were discussing about just being sensitive to the needs.  I am truly lost in topic at the moment. I'm not even going to proofread I'm going to close here and revisit the topic later.  In temporary closing I will say you need to find a deep value in your purpose to get on this journey and make it a successful one.   Sometimes you have to prove em wrong, if that is what you need to  get off  your ass and start day 1 then use it and do it.  Be honest with yourself and yes some things will hurt and it may take some time to realize what will truly work for you to keep you where you want to be.  That takes time with patience,  obviously you will have to place yourself in a supportive arena because not all gatherings will be in your best interest and you can not afford to get emotional  and thrown off your focus.  I could have named the blog Nakidfine but I named it Pain & Physique for a reason, we all struggle even the insensitive ones that write nasty articles.  

I remain,
Jerome "SuperNakidOwt" Stancil 

STRETCHED not STRESSED

Before my thoughts move on to another place I want to share on a mistake I almost made.  I believe that I am not the only person who may have mistaken the differences of being stretched versus truly being stressed out.

Without details I will start by acknowledging that everyday has its messed up issues....  now before I continue I want to start that sentence over  by rephrasing it with a more positive out look. Take 2- Without details I will start by acknowledging that everyday has an awesome set of obstacles that require my best efforts from beginning to end. I welcome the days instead of dreading or fearing them, I anticipate what I can and deal with the unexpected as they arrive.  Now even if the days course of obstacles seem to tough or drama filled I refuse to sink below anything less than being rather cool no matter how intense a moment may be.  We often gather are problems in a big suitcase and immediately cry out that we have so much going on we just can't carry it or handle it.  Well I have challenged myself to reverse that wretched thought pattern.  That means I won't end my day feeling unaccomplished or soaked in self pity.  What I am finding out about myself is that the worst case is usually I am stretched out, not saying there isn't a fraction of stress but again I have made up my mind to not reside in it or even visit if possible. Some people say they are stressed because they are unable to do as they please, that's not stress but if you listen to the complaining and wining long enough you'll realize it as well, some people are just pissed off at their circumstances because they can't do X amount in a day, or spend X amount of money or allot X amount of time elsewhere.  A person has to accept the stress mentality, in my case I just say I'm stretched out and if I don't pull my self together I'll get pulled apart and if that happens we can just skip over that weak ass term called stress and go dark into depression *which will be touch on by some friends of mine very soon.  So place the book mark here because I am extremely tired and I believe in rest now more than ever, I WANT EVERY DAY to know that I AM COMING WITH MY BEST! No matter what direction I may be pulled in or what blessing something may be pulling me away from I recognize what is mine and with that thought alone I can never be stressed when I have a battle to win.  Remember Nakidfine is about body spirit & MIND, so transform your thoughts and train up your mind as you do your other 2 because you can get with in a gym with a trainer and if you are a believer you can get with with a BIBLE and a good church home but your MIND can only get right when you want it right.

*NO PROOF READING!!!! ha ha

Jerome "SuperNakidOwt" Stancil

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Hindering HABITS Versus Healthy HABITS

The year is ending which gives many people an opportunity to self evaluate and do some tuning for a new year a fresh start ......yeah yeah yeah uh huh SAME GAS SAME FART!!!! Whatever save the resolution talk and half ass self evaluations.  This will be a brief tip from me that will help out anyone in any situation. I'm about to speak like an adult so you will need to receive this as an adult with some internal honesty and acceptance. BUT FIRST YOU MUST ACKNOWLEDGE IT!

1. ADMIT you want more of a BETTER YOU. Look deeply inside and imagine the BEST YOU.

2. ADMIT you have HINDERING HABITS  and IDENTIFY them. The small ones are just as harmful as the big ones, so struggle painfully list them all.  If its easy to write them out you may need to take a few days to get deeper on the matter or ask a friend their honest opinion, shut up & listen.

3 ACKNOWLEDGE & ACCEPT #1 & #2. There is no debate about them, when you evaluated and wrote it out or put in your head that sealed it.  NOW ACCEPT IT, WORK ON IT and REPLACE IT with your HEALTHY HABITS. If that's a resolution, fine - but I recommend GOAL setting with BODY SPIRIT MIND in focus, that's NAKIDFINE!


Don't over think the evaluation, just be honest with yourself because that may be the easy piece if you truly are ready to transform into the BETTER LIVING YOU. Replace some of those facebook freak pages to something of substance, you know exactly what I am referring too.  If its a food issue you are dealing with quit cutting out ALL YOU CAN EAT BUFFET COUPONS.  I'm sure you get the point but you have to replace it within the HELPFUL HEALTHY category.  As I said brief and done. I wish you a Happy New Year and I believe you may have all the best failure and success stories in the world at the end of 2014.  Trust me its okay to Fail sometimes, just means you are trying. You know how to find me, I guess.  SuperNakidOWT!

Click the Website from my videographer Damon Thomas he caught some great highlights from Clark Atlanta University Fit Challenge Hosted by Nakidfine & if you aren't already in our private Facebook group please join in and get that motivation. https://www.facebook.com/groups/nakidfinetv/


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Right Now, Starts Now.

Right Now, STARTS NOW!

The title is a reminder that I may need to tattoo on my forehead or even tape to my kids shirts so I have ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE!

     Now that all the "I wish...", the IFs, "if I could only" moments are here it's time to produce, point -blank -period.  But the reality soon sets in and everything isn't as peachy as you thought it would be.  Our lives, simply put are a balancing act.  Listen up because your equilibrium somehow is placed in your eardrums somewhere.

     Babies learn to walk by holding on to whatever they can to find balance, throughout school you learn to build your academic resume by being an all around student of life with education subjects and extra curricular activities and finally somewhere we up to BIG ADULT PERSON STATUS.  Yes! How's your balance now?!?!!!?!!!!   Uh HUH, between your personal health, employment, children, bills, unexpected emergencies, half days of school & homework, if you are in school you have homework too!, busted radiator, increasing prices *but your wage is the same, ... of course these are the PROBLEM side of things but they still need to be prioritized, addressed and met usually with a sense of urgency.    Now I don't want to assume what type of person you are because some folks handle all of the previous listed issues and other things very well- BILLS PAID! Check! Car passed emmissions! Check! Tithed 15% thats how we do! Check that off! Christmas savings and money for 2 BIRDS on Turkeys DAY check! on the outside all that looks gravy n good to others but what about you and those closest to you?  Having all of that in place by all means is awesome, but what about the NOW, the RIGHT NOW, that time when your kid wants you to look at him save the princess on Mario Brothers, or Wifey got a new color and is waiting for you  to notice with a compliment or you haven't had a chance to simply do what you simply enjoy to keep you sane and positively balanced.  This is surely a ramble on my end but I made this blog to express myself and challenge anybody who reads this to apply the RIGHT NOW, STARTS NOW theme in their lives. The same energy you use to hustle or slave for somebody else balance it out and apply some of that to you and your family or whatever floats your boat.  Take the time and PUT URGENT! HANDLE WITH CARE! and SPECIAL DELIVERY all over YOURSELF and KIDs and do something special RIGHT NOW!      

*NOT GONNA PROOFREAD THIS!!!! I have other stuff to do RIGHT NOW! ha ha just thought I'd blog with the Right now theme.

Jerome Stancil

aka SuperNakidOwt

  

  

AS IS!!!

Short & Quick because I should really be doing all the other blog topics I wrote down.  Anyways--- AS IS!! Thats the topic, the subject matter and that is all! As Is, simply means sometimes you can't add ANYTHING ELSE TO THE EQUATION!!! I don't care what you think, that could be an issue OVER THINKING! ha ha Simply accept some things as is, NO SALT, No Make Up, No Cover ups!

     I just want to recall this thought that's I'm recording it as a blog piece--- and to end before my run on sentences begin.  PLEASE APPLY THIS 1 RULE and you can make up whatever else you desire you will do that anyway and it is encouraged. If you feel the need to ADD something to the equation SUBTRACT as well! When you decide to get into a great evaluation of yourself at the very moment you are Ph7 BALANCED! Thats what you want a great Spiritual Evaluated Balanced Feeling in life.  3Fingers Up! Body Spirit Mind! Nakidfine!

Jerome Stancil AKA

SuperNakidOwt

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Change Vs Transformation (Part 1)

Change Vs Transformation (Part 1)

 

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be TRANSFORMED by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

 

      Often when I speak with people, I am usually highly animated with a variety of simple sayings or lil word play creations I just make up.  One of my commonly used sayings is "You CAN'T CHANGE! YOU EITHER START or STOP something in your LIFE!"  I picked this from an AA meeting listening to an older person who knew the drill about being a more productive person.  I am inspired to write this morning after talking to my mother who rushed herself to the Emergency Room last night in Kansas City. So independent didn't bother to call a soul! ha ha then texted me! She crazy! Anyway lets dig into todays topic inspired by a conversation with Mama- Change Vs. Transformation.

     As Donna and I are talking (I don't call her that but you can) she started rapid firing off verses, that's what she do! Jeopardy Queen -Bible Version! I spoke about a friend who is accomplished, successful and has achieved a long term career goal, BUT SHE MAD! My friend called and said "I can't even enjoy it! I'M FAT!" Now this friend and I have gone back n forth with different ideas to get her going and lose some weight etc etc, but the changes she wants and can well achieve, CAN ALL BE CHANGED RIGHT BACK!!! In starting a walk, journey or getting into your goals you must first start and with that start BELIEVE IN THE TRANSFORMATION not a body change but a RENEWING of the MIND! A renewing of ones mind goes back to me saying that starting some new things while stopping some bad things must take place.  Anyone can lose weight but not every person can truly transform into a new train of thought or thinking process.  They want to be stuck, defeated and then blame something else on why they aren't getting CONSISTENT RESULTS for the damn near impossible TRANSFORMATION.  Mom said you have SHORT & LONG TERM GOALS and then you HAVE THE IMPOSSIBLE GOAL!!!  You and I Both want the IMPOSSIBLE!!!  *and we also know that with GOD all things are possible.  The beautiful thing about setting these impossible goals is because that SHORT & LONG TERM GOAL is easy to achieve for some folks they say I'm gonna be an Engineer or Doctor and for some every tool they need  to get that achieved is right there and the obstacles hurdled to get there have been simple jumps but on the back end somewhere in their life THE ARE WEAK WILLED! They can't..... that right their weakness is what they desire to be TRANSFORMED.  I'll have to revisit this and go a bit deeper from what was shared to me.  But I'll leave on this  once that caterpillar TRANSFORMS into a butterfly it's NEW! and can't never go back and I'm sure it wouldn't want to! Now that it can fly! So take on the I can do the IMPOSSIBLE MENTALITY and KICK SOME ASS TODAY!!!! 

 

Jerome "SuperNakidOwt!" Stancil

still praying for Mama!

 

Heavy Days

Heavy Days!

Exodus 17:12

12 But Moses hands were heavy; and they took a stone, and put it under him, and he sat theron: and Aaron and Hur stayed up his hands, the one on the one side, and the other on the other side: and his hands were steady until the going down of the sun.

The spirit of weakness and light weight laziness over came me today, as it gently wrapped its character over my body it seeped into my spirit and mind and YES I felt DEFEATED!!! For No reason at ALL! Unexplained SH*TTYness! The trick was done subtly there was no sadness or horrible situations at my door knocking, it was like waking up to a foggy morning it was just there and I refused to even turn my one headlights on! 

  

     I am thankful for having a day of celebration and friends across the country.  Today I was called a leader after I made a post about not wanting to get up and go get some at the gym, BUT I AM WEAK I am thinking to myself and thats when it hit me! YOU CAN BE WEAK!!!! There's nothing wrong with having HEAVY moments or feelings of WEAKNESS- WE ARE HUMAN with 1,000 EMOTIONS and CHARACTERS! I texted my Pastor and asked him for the verse of Moses and his moment of weakness while the right hands were available to keep his ARMS lifted with the tasks at hand.  The right people are there for you in these times, make yourself available to receive the proper motivation.  It's a simple comment at times, a call or even someone in need of the LITTLE STRENGTH YOU HAVE LEFT!!!!! And you give it up!!!! Sacrificing it all for the tasks you are called to do! There's so many stories in my day but for once I will keep them close to me only because GOD isn't finished and I had to at least get up and realize it was a new day and a new task that needed to be accomplished and it won't be overnight! 

      Remember your 3 main components of BODY SPIRIT & MIND are under all sorts of attack.  So keep on checking on them to keep them in proper running function to be the best YOU daily!